Are You Mentally Available?
We get into different types of Connections for various reasons. When it comes to being in a Alternative Lifestyle (LS), we yearn for a special something that is not normally acceptable by societal norms. But when you pursue this different types of relationships, are you really mentally available? Can you handle the reciprocity or consistent energy it takes to fulfill the wants and needs of yourself and another?
I urge people to be honest with themselves. For me, I had to realize my real nature as an Ambivert and someone who suffers from mild depression. For those of you who are new to the term ambivert, it means that I am both introverted and extroverted. I am mostly introverted however. I do believe you can fall on either end of the spectrum, being more extroverted or introverted.
For example; When I first started vetting for a submissive in my walk as a Mistress, I had VERY little time to handhold all day. The barrier was that I was attracted to littles and pets which require more work than other submissive types. I felt like I wanted to grow and mold the perfect submissive for me. It turned out that that isn't what I was prepared for at all. Now don't get me wrong, I still ended up being a Good Mommy to my charges but I wasn't the BEST Mommy I could be. What happened? I wasn't being honest with how much time I had available. How many relationship issues I was combating. I wasn't honest about the level of patience I had. And then, I wasn't mentally available most times! I had convinced myself that I was Mentally Available.
Was it a learning experience? Yes! What Dominant appears perfect upon first grasping their reigns? Tell no lies!
Are you available to your connections in the way that you'd agreed? How do you know? You should ask them. Make this a conversation. One of the good things about being in the midst of a Pandemic is that it has forced us to step up our ability to effectively communicate. Tempers are short. People are panicky and anxieties have skyrocketed due to all of this unknown chaos.
What are some things you can do to be mentally available to your connections?
Make sure your mental health is intact. Seek out a therapist if you feel heavy and are having difficulty coping.
Keep your partners in the loop with your projects and tasks so that they know you are growing and progressing.
Exercise everyday. Why? Builds mental focus, clarity and might encourage others around you to be healthier.
Have scheduled weekly chats on updates in general.
Ask your connections how can you be mentally available for them?
Ask yourself if your connection to too much for you mentally where you are in your life.
If you find yourself struggling with staying mentally connected, please contact a healthcare professional or a Mentor within the Lifestyle Community
Mistress Urban Kinkster